"If only there were an anxious bench to sit myself down on and work this confusion out"
Now that is just a commentary on western civilization, isn't it?
She just needs to exercise her free will and commit to him, then she can assure herself of his undying love (as long as she stays good and never disappoints him).
"My dear Daisy,I really do love you. How much all depends on you... Frankly, my dear, you're dead as far as I'm concerned and I can't raise you to life unless you really want me to. So, do you want me to?Daisy?Daisy?Hello?Oh well. Your choice.Love,-Finney"